I heard somewhere once that when you stop looking for something this thing will come to you. If you really want to meet somebody special you have to stop lookig purposely for him/her - and he/she will come. When you want a new job you have to stop obsessing about it - and it will come. Is that really so? How to stop looking when you really want something?
If you imagine something and later behave like this thing has already happened and you live in it - it will happen. The whole universe will re-arrange itself because you will send positive energy to it. So maybe if we stay positive about finding something but not obsess about it - the thing we want will happen.